There is an old saying: the heart wants what the heart wants. It is true that the human heart is like an untamed, wild mustang roaming the range - free and proud. We may act and try to think a certain way, but our feelings are our feelings.



This quality of the human heart is an admirable, wonderful and awe-inspiring thing. But, it can also fly directly in the face of the reality that is our lives. This is especially true if we have unrequited loved: loving someone without being loved back in the same way or to the same degree. But, it can also be true in another serious type of situation: when you have committed a life of marriage to one person but still have feelings for another.



This is one of the worst kinds of emotional pain: to know that you are loved and wanted romantically by two people at once but that you cannot legitimately be with both of them. It is particularly hard if you are married to one of them.



If you are saying to yourself, "My ex wants me back but I'm married," here what you need to do:



1. Decide whether you still love your spouse: Your spouse is - or at least at one time was - the most important person in your life. Furthermore, you made a commitment to him or her at one point in the past, so you must have loved this person. How about now? Where are your true feelings regard