The "Fast Forward Technique" - A Strategy For Getting Over a Break Up

We have all heard the old adage "Time heals all wounds." But the fact of the matter is that when dealing with the pain of a break up, or any loss, we want the pain stop, and stop now.

Unfortunately, I do not have a magic button to push to make the pain go way.

I truly wish I did.

However, there is a process that you can use to "fast forward" through the hurt of loss and aid in the healing.

This process is called , the "Fast Forward technique" and is consists of the following 5 steps:

1. First Step: Everyone "feels" their emotional pain differently. Many feel it in the chest or heart, hence the term "heart break."

   However, you may be different. Take a moment to become aware of where you tend to feel emotional pain and then ask yourself (either aloud or inwardly) this question:

   Can I allow this feeling? - or -

   Can I welcome this feeling?

   Then answer the question. Whether it is Yes or No, does not matter.

2. Second Step: Ask Could I release these feelings? Again, a Yes or No answer does not matter.
3. Third Step: Ask Would I release these feelings?
4. Fourth Step Ask When?
5. Fifth Step Next examine your feelings.

Do they feel the same?

Has there been a subtle shift?

The shift will be different for everyone, but it is a sign that the healing process has begun.

It is a good idea to repeat this process through the steps two or three times a day until you feel the shift in your feelings has begun.

Given time, I truly believe you will be surprised by the results.

Finally, once you have had some distance from your relationship, and you have allowed yourself to begin to heal, you may find that you want to reconnect with your ex.