The reason this series is called "Mastering Relationships" was because creating them is actual very easy... becoming Masterful at them is the more tricky path.
Firstly, let me talk about that a "relationship" actually is... most people think of a "relationship" as a thing... some-thing to be had, created, owned, built, bartered or improved. While in fact a "relation-ship" is not a thing at all. A simple definition of a thing (or noun) is that you can put it in a box (a real box, not a metaphoric one) albeit some things take a pretty large box... like the Earth for instance; it is a thing and if you could conceivably build a big enough box, you could put the whole planet into it. Whereas a "relation-ship" could never go into a box; sure you could put the people involved into a box but NOT the "relation-ship" itself (because it has no "self"). It is what, in linguistics, is called a nominalization. A word that is commonly mistaken for a thing or noun that is actually a verb or action. "Relation-ship" is better called a "Relating-ship" because that is what it is... the act (or action) of two or more people relating to one an other. This is why creating a Relating-ship is so easy. Any interaction you have with another person or people is a relating-ship; you are acting in a certain way and doing things to interact with that person or people. Mastering Relating-ships is about doing the things you need to do in order to have the relating-ships you want to have. And it does involve doing things... you must take action. I have said many times that the universe operates on The Law of Least Effort and not the "Law of No Effort".
We are going to speak about creating (or manifesting) the relationships you want. After we do this we can discuss how to enhance current (and even fix problem ones) and when needed, let go of ones that have passed their date and are definitely not going to serve you again.
MANIFESTING THE RELATIONSHIPS YOU WANT
STEP ONE - Get Present & Get Aware
Following the Laws of Attraction, the first Law is the Law of Awareness... in relation to relationships this means becoming aware of what it is that you want.
Many people have attempted to take action in this area by creating what I call Laundry Lists of the stuff they want. People will write a list of the physical "necessities" like:
• Blond
• Blue-eyed
• Tan
• Other physical features
You get the idea.
There is nothing wrong with this at all... in fact it is important to know what you are wanting in every aspect and the physical is very important also. It is not, however, the only and certainly not the most powerful creative force when manifesting the relating-ships you want.
You may start with the "Laundry List" - write down all the things you want the other person to be physically" (eyes, hair, color, size, shape, body type). Far from limiting your choice in the future, this will in fact help you to create your next list. And it is this (next) list that will be your ultimate tool for manifesting the relating-ship of your dreams and the key to ensuring fulfillment with any relating-ship.
Begin a list of HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL
• Stimulated
• Challenged
• Loved
• Loving
• Protected
• Etc etc
If you are having a little trouble with this list look at the "Laundry List" and ask yourself, "If I have a Partner with all these things... How will that make me feel?" When you get one thing down ask, "How else?". Soon the list will begin to flow more easily.
It is your emotions that operate on the unconscious level and speak directly to the pure potentiality of the universe... this is the list that will bring about the manifestation of your true wishes, dreams and desires in a relating-ship.
To really put the goal of this relationship "out there" and have your unconscious totally aligned and focused on creating it for you... I use Christopher Howard's™ Strategic Visioning™ technique for putting your goal out into the future. It is an advancement on what Neville might have called living from the feeling of the wish fulfilled and I believe it is a critical component in manifesting your truly desired relationship even fast than you will ever imagine.
It's time to take action... your tasks... write your lists.
1. Fill yourself with a feeling of gratitude for the relationship you are creating now
2. Imagine your most truly desired relationship
3. Write down your Physical List
4. Write down your Emotional List
5. Strategic Vision™ your Outcome
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... In our next Newsletter we will discuss Step Two - Get out of your way and Allow.
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