Welcome to Splitsville! Whether you're on the verge of a life-altering, world-shattering break up or have just been through one with Mr Ex who once used to be your heart and soul, this article is for you. And let me assure you, we have all been there before. It is a hard path we all must take.
Here's your guide to Splitsville:
1. Forgive and forget.
That's right! Try and get Mr Ex off your mind. If you did all you could and it is still no good, then try to forgive him and what has been. Forgiveness leads the way to moving on.
2. Think positive!
Many times you will find yourself depressed with dark thoughts hovering above your head. Snap out of it, girl! Of course, there will be a time when you are grieving and mouring the greatest love of all that had died too soon too early. But don't drown in tears and sorrow. Don't deny it either. Accept what has become and try to move on.
3. Avoid talking to or seeing Mr Ex for a while.
That's right. This does help with moving on. When you don't see him everyday, you can think about other things or people. It will help you feel more liberated.
4. Get busy!
When you have a long to-do list, you will not have time to even remember him. Also, get busy doing things you love. Be selfish for some time. That's your absolute right.
5. Surround yourself with supportive friends!
Friends can help you get through the worst of break ups, from sharing their worst break up stories, laughing about them or crying with you. And try to be with friends who make you laugh.
6. Spoil yourself!
Indulge for a while, but remember never go shopping when you're feeling emotional. You may end up spending way too much beyond your budget. Take a friend who can help you decide what to buy. Also, work out more. When you work out, your body produces endorphins that fight off depression and are natural pain killers. Not to mention working out will make your body look sexier and increase your confidence.
7. Don't start dating UNLESS you are completely over Mr Ex.
Otherwise, you will end up feeling worse than before when you realize your new man is not as romantic or caring as Mr Ex. That will leave you devastated. Take your time. When you're ready to date, you'll have your whole mind to decide if someone is worth dating AWAY from Mr Ex.
8. Write!
Start a journal, blog or anything about your journey. I have found this to be most helpful. Talking or writing about what you are going through helps with the healing process. Blogs are very popular nowadays and you will get feedback and support and may even make new friends online.
9. Get a cat or a dog.
10. Go easy on caffeine and sugar.
They give you a very short lift then make you feel down. Food that will make you feel better includes fish (rich in omega-3 fatty acids), vegetables and fruits as they are rich in vitamins and minerals.
Be well and always think of yourself as a beautiful strong person. You are.
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