Most everyone has at some time in their life experienced a break up that they didn't want to have happen. Usually, the only thing to do is to accept it and move on.
But if you don't want to be the victim anymore and you want to get your ex back in your life, there is a strategy you can implement to achieve just that. The full resources for this are listed at the bottom. Meanwhile, here are the steps that will immediately turn the game around for you in getting your ex back.
First things first, you have to have a clear mind to apply the strategy if you want success.
Don't make it obvious you want your ex back I know it sounds a bit contrary but bear with me. People can be like magnets sometimes, when the "poles" are opposite they snap together. Which is why you sometimes see the most unlikely pairings in couples that "have nothing in common". It is also why, when the "poles" are the same, just like magnets, they fly apart.
This has nothing to do with personality or interests, but when one partner is pulling back and the other is reaching out in fact they are moving in the same direction. Which only makes the one pulling back, pull back all the harder. Have you experienced that?
So if you want your ex back, do the opposite, and start to withdraw a little yourself. Managed correctly this almost magically turns the "poles" around and your ex will start to be drawn towards you rather than trying to back away.
Determine why you want your ex back - This is a vital step. Why do you want your ex back? Is it because you are hurt? Do you want to get back with them, just so you can be the one to break it off? Or is it, because you genuinely want to be with that person, sharing your life. If it's anything other than the last reason. Then you don't want you ex back, you probably just want closure and I can't help you with that.
But if you do want your ex back for all the right reasons then the next thing for you to do is figure out what went wrong.
Why doesn't your ex want you back? Did something happen that broke up the relationship? Was there someone else involved?
Looking at the reason why the relationship broke up is vital if there is ever to be a future for you together. A break up doesn't have to be the end. But if you don't spot and repair the causes of it then another break up is inevitable. If you are honest with yourself. If you avoid blame, both of the other person but just as importantly, of yourself, then an answer can be found.
Very often it is the little things, lack of appreciation, taking things for granted... These are often more damaging to a relationship than even something as serious as an affair.
What to do next - These first steps help to get your mindset clear, the next stage will show you how to take the exact actions that will bring your ex running back to you. If you want your ex back, you will need this information.
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