So you met "the one", had children with him and now he is nowhere to be found. He decided he is done not only with you but with the children too, leaving your new fatherless family with feelings of abandonment, insecurity, and loneliness. You are now a single mother with all of the financial, emotional and physical challenges that come with it. The truth is you cannot change the fact you are a single mother and your children are without an involved biological father. Nope, it is not exactly what we all dreamed of as little girls but it is what it is now, and you are the only one who is responsible for transforming that old dream into a positive reality not only for your well being but for your children too.
Do you really want to be that girl on welfare, which sees welfare as a way of life and her children as baggage instead of a blessing? That girl in the bar feeling sorry for herself because she doesn't have a father for her burdening children? That girl who barely has time to make ends meet but somehow makes time to look for and accept that guy who will fill the void she feels inside, even if he is not right for her? That girl who broke down because she truly believed her life was supposed to be a fairy tale only to find out her naivety made her life full of fallacies? That girl screaming out I don't care how you treat me, please, just be with me!
That desperate loner being controlled by that deadbeat donor. That deadbeat donor who is sick enough to laugh as he runs away from the privilege& responsibility of being a father and smart enough to know, your emotions will lead you to believe you will always need him back, if he wants to come back. But what he was too vacant to realize while he was running away, is he had actually given that girl, that desperate loner, the missing half of the most meaningful donation anyone could ever give or receive in life, children. This missing half that was given provides the opportunity for her to take on the privilege and responsibility of being a mother and a father to her children. Once that girl realizes what she has received she will not want to be that girl, that desperate loner because it will not feel right anymore. She will instead choose to be that woman on welfare which sees welfare as a stepping stone to a better life and her children as angels sent to her as a blessing. That woman who chooses not to go to the bar, but chooses to take her kids to karate class instead. That woman who barely has time to make ends meet, but somehow makes the time to fill the void she feels inside by taking care of herself and her children, so she will be ready and able to accept that man only if he is right for her. That woman who truly believed her life was supposed to be a fairy tale only to find out her naivety brought her to the experience of fallacy and when that happened she was strong enough to accept it with grace and balance. That woman screaming out I do care how you treat me so please treat me well or I will have to let you go.
That girl, who has chosen to grow into that woman who will not have the time or energy to be angry at that deadbeat donor when he gets tired and thirsty from running, but will thank him for the donation and without regret, give him some water so he can continue to run on, for he will no longer be needed in this woman's' family.
You have been given a gift... the challenge is opening it and seeing the gift for what it is instead of what it is not.
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