Friendship and love.... One of the most exciting and interesting topic in today's youth. Almost 99% of the people wish to see a good friend in their life partner. Many people see their life partner in their friend. This topic is always a confusing one for me. When I think a guy and a girl to be partners, they say they are friends and when I think them to be best friends they turn out to be life partners. I was just wondering about the small difference that exists between friendship and love and the change that happens in people's view once they get into a relationship.I have seen few people who are good friends and then turned out to be partners. I know them at both the times... Here is a small attempt am making to tell the differences that I found in people when they are friends and when they became lovers.
The first and the foremost thing I noticed in the ppl is the physical attraction (PA). PA doesn't exist when 2 persons are friends and once this exists, they start thinking to get into a serious relationship.
The second and most uncomfortable feeling is the possessiveness towards the other person. When they are just friends, they let the other person talk to anyone they wish. Once entered into a relation, they expect so much of importance that even speaking to a colleague or some common friend will lead into a quarrel.
The third comes out to be a feeling of jealous. Initially, when someone praise the other person, they feel good but later, the same praising will lead to anger. I don't know the reason behind it, may be it's because of fear of losing the person.
Last but not the least, the reason behind the breakup of many ppl is the so called ego. When someone fight with their friend, they just go to them and apologize them and the problem gets solved. But, when ppl in love fight, they expects the other person to come to them and say sorry. Few people think in such a way that, they stop talking to the other person because they didn't receive any apologies and when the same person comes to them and apologize, they forget everything and become normal. I don't know the happiness in such kind of attitude.
All the above mentioned points may create a feeling that it would be good if friendship don't turn to love. But, that may be true or may not be. Just like a coin has two sides, everything in life will have many views. There is something which Friendship can give and Love can't and there are some other things which love can give and friendship cannot. When handled properly, both of them can be balanced and will lead a beautiful life.Relationships are like glasses, so, handle them properly.
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